Don’t Risk Your Life to Please Your Wife, Cleric Warns Married Men

Nigerian preacher and marriage counsellor, Reverend Funke Felix-Adejumo, has cautioned married men against endangering their health or lives in a bid to satisfy their spouses, urging them instead to focus on doing their best without undue pressure.

Speaking during a recent address to her congregants, the cleric said it is unrealistic for any man to fully please a woman, stressing that such expectations could place unnecessary strain on husbands.

“Listen to me very carefully. Do everything, but don’t kill yourself. Married men, hear me, I’m a woman speaking to you now. There is nobody that can please a woman,” she said.

Felix-Adejumo explained that her remarks were based on what she described as the evolving and often limitless expectations of women, noting that the desire for improvement is a natural trait.

Using beauty practices as an example, she pointed out how women frequently alter their appearance despite natural features, suggesting that the tendency reflects a broader inclination toward change and enhancement.

“The Almighty God gave us nails, we will cut the nails and attach another one. God gave us eyebrows, we will shave it off and put another one. God gave us hair, we will remove it. The Almighty God cannot please us; who are you that you want to please us?” she added.

The cleric advised men to prioritise their wellbeing while striving to support their families, emphasising that balance is key in maintaining healthy relationships.

“Don’t die! Do your best,” she stressed.

Addressing women during the same session, Felix-Adejumo encouraged wives to pursue financial independence rather than relying solely on their husbands for financial support.

She urged women to build personal sources of income, noting that financial stability can strengthen relationships and reduce pressure on spouses.

“Don’t let the money you will have be only sexually transmitted money. You have your money. So that whatever your husband gives you, it will be an addition,” she said.

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Drawing from her personal experience, the preacher shared that she once presented her husband with multiple gifts on his birthday, highlighting the importance of reciprocity in marriage.

“When my husband turned 60, I gave him 61 gifts,” she noted.

Felix-Adejumo concluded by encouraging women to move beyond dependency, urging them to embrace self-reliance and contribute meaningfully to their households.

“Your life should not be dependent on ‘until daddy comes’. We have left that level,” she said.